Arranged Marriage in India Essay
1534 WordsApr 30th, 20107 Pages
Arranging a Marriage in India
Serena Nanda Arranged marriages in Indian society have been the norm for many centuries. Even today, an overwhelming majority of Indian people have their married arranged by their parents, or respected family members.As American we never really contemplate the idea of having someone choose our life-long partner. That’s not the case in other nations such as India, arranged marriage in India is a very common practice, yet here in the United States arranged marriages are frowned upon. We believe that everyone has the right to choose who they want to spend their lived with. Although I believe that we should be free to make our own choices I also can see what the advantages and disadvantages of an arranged…show more content…
Like Serena Nanda wrote about the reaction her friend who she was helping look for a suitable wife for her son said “She is short, no doubt, which is an important plus point, but she is also fat and wears glasses”(pg.50). Nanda’s friend was looking for a wife for her son, she looked for women who were going to be able to live in a joint house where all the wives of the brothers lived. They wanted her family to have a good relationship with her and expected her to be very modest yet well educated. They did not want a woman who was of a higher caste because they didn’t want her to look down upon her husband’s family. Many young men and women in India believe that arranged marriages are good for them because they have the ability to focus on school and also to focus on who they are and what they want to do. They don’t worry about having to find a wife or husband because that responsibility is left for the parents. Nanda met a young Indian girl named Sita, she asked her how could she marry someone whom she had never met or even spoken and how could she think of spending the rest of her life with someone who she may not even like to this Sita replied “With you people (Americans) you know the boy so well before you marry, where will be the fun to get married? There will be no mystery and no romance. Here we have the whole married life to get to know and love our husbands.
Arranged Marriage Essay
I strongly disagree with the whole concept of arranged marriages. I believe all men and women should have the freedom to choose whom they marry, and it should not be left up to anyone but themselves. Whether it is relatives making previous plans, people getting in trouble with the law, or another reason that might be against a person’s own will, I see that as terribly wrong and against anything I’ve ever been taught. I think the emotional toll it can take on women is completely unfair, as they don’t have a choice and, as said by a young woman in the Junior Scholastic article Marriage-or Else, 2011 “Every time they could, they found an excuse to beat me.” That statement shows me that violence can be evident in arranged marriage, which is a concern of mine. According to New York Times, 1995, not only are most women in arranged marriages forced into something they might not be up to, they can be thrown into a life of violence and torture. The thought of someone having to go through a violent relationship, which they didn’t even get to choose themselves, makes me sick. The fact that a woman’s fate can be laying in someone else’s hands and she can’t do anything about it makes me question the sanity of today’s society.
The big thing that makes me think arranged marriages are wrong is that I couldn’t imagine having to live a life that wasn’t one that I chose to live. Because I’ve always lived in an environment where I get to make most of my own choices, when it comes to seeing the situation through a different light it’s nearly unimaginable to me. In my opinion, there should be a law against arranged marriages that the women do not agree with. The bad part about trying to stop it is that it happens all around the world. According to the New Internationalist article, A Prisoner in the House, 2013, “From bride to slave overnight --such is the fate of hundreds of women brought into Britain under the smokescreen of arranged marriage.” This quote absolutely describes the harsh realities of arranged marriage, from a woman’s perspective. When I read this, I instantly thought of the sexist ways arranged marriage will usually undertake. It seems that anything I read in any articles or anything I watch on television about this topic, the woman is the one who is often suffering and trying to get out of a life full of such hate and resentment. This quote also shows the violence that can occur in such relationships, when it says “From bride to slave overnight…” What makes me cringe is that...
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